Comments on: Prune Hands http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/2009/07/17/prune-hands/ Adopting our baby from Oregon Sat, 28 Aug 2010 01:22:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Joel http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/2009/07/17/prune-hands/comment-page-1/#comment-161 Joel Mon, 08 Mar 2010 05:43:19 +0000 http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/?p=145#comment-161 @<a href="#comment-138" rel="nofollow">Chantel</a>: Thank you for your comment. I actually wrote this comment back in December and somehow forgot to post it until now (March!); my apologies. I always enjoy reading about people who are in the same situation as myself, not that I'm a sadist or anything ;) My wife and I try to share the bitterness only with our close confidants. There's enough negativity on A) the Web and B) the adoptive parent community that we don't need to add to it. But as you rightly inferred, we have plenty of bitterness at the ready, should we need it. Regarding the "support" our loved ones give us ... what a funny situation to be in?! It's like a small child that wants to help clean up the house but inadvertently makes more of a mess in the process. But of course it all springs from love, so that's how we process it. My responses generally follow this format. THEM: "So, any news on the adoption?" ME: "Trust me, we'll let you know." Most people tend to get the point after that. @Chantel: Thank you for your comment. I actually wrote this comment back in December and somehow forgot to post it until now (March!); my apologies. I always enjoy reading about people who are in the same situation as myself, not that I’m a sadist or anything ;) My wife and I try to share the bitterness only with our close confidants. There’s enough negativity on A) the Web and B) the adoptive parent community that we don’t need to add to it. But as you rightly inferred, we have plenty of bitterness at the ready, should we need it. Regarding the “support” our loved ones give us … what a funny situation to be in?! It’s like a small child that wants to help clean up the house but inadvertently makes more of a mess in the process. But of course it all springs from love, so that’s how we process it. My responses generally follow this format. THEM: “So, any news on the adoption?” ME: “Trust me, we’ll let you know.” Most people tend to get the point after that.

]]> By: Mo http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/2009/07/17/prune-hands/comment-page-1/#comment-159 Mo Tue, 16 Feb 2010 22:20:41 +0000 http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/?p=145#comment-159 Hi Kate! I'm a Mummy in the making, from Germany. I just want to tell you that there's nothing different in Germany, so many adoption parents but even not so many children. We are waiting too! Don't give up! we get the chance to bring our baby home. All the best, Mo, from Germany Hi Kate!

I’m a Mummy in the making, from Germany.

I just want to tell you that there’s nothing different in Germany, so many adoption parents but even not so many children. We are waiting too!
Don’t give up! we get the chance to bring our baby home.

All the best, Mo, from Germany

]]> By: Chantel http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/2009/07/17/prune-hands/comment-page-1/#comment-138 Chantel Sat, 26 Dec 2009 03:42:37 +0000 http://kateandjoelsadoption.com/?p=145#comment-138 I just found your blog as I was looking for stories of adoptive parents. My husband and I (in PA) are in the same place you are--almost a year into the waiting process with no beginning in sight. It's frustrating to field questions from those very loving people who can't wait for you to get your baby. I find myself wanting to tell them that they will hear us shout from the rooftops when we finally get THE CALL. Until then...well, thanks for your concern. I'm impressed by the lack of bitterness in your blog, although I'm sure there's enough of it somewhere. Best of luck in the waiting and the placement. I just found your blog as I was looking for stories of adoptive parents. My husband and I (in PA) are in the same place you are–almost a year into the waiting process with no beginning in sight. It’s frustrating to field questions from those very loving people who can’t wait for you to get your baby. I find myself wanting to tell them that they will hear us shout from the rooftops when we finally get THE CALL. Until then…well, thanks for your concern.

I’m impressed by the lack of bitterness in your blog, although I’m sure there’s enough of it somewhere. Best of luck in the waiting and the placement.

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