Note: What follows is an email we sent out to friends and family.
Dear friends and family,
Hello! We’re writing now for two reasons:
- To give everyone a brief update on the status of our adoption
- More importantly, we need just 15 minutes of your day to help us get $12,000 for the adoption. Seriously, no joke.
As you know, we are currently in the process of adopting our first child. We started in the Spring of 2007, and have been hoping and waiting ever since. We experienced a major setback when Vietnam closed their doors to American adoptive families. We quickly rebounded and moved on to domestic (aka American) adoption. We apparently have terrible luck since domestic adoptions have slowed dramatically in the last year, and there is still no end in sight as we enter year four of our journey.
So basically our status update is “everything is the same as it has been for the last year and a half.” Kind of anticlimactic, we know. People often ask “what’s going on with the adoption?” Here it is: we’re simply waiting to be matched with a birthmother. No more, no less. There is just a major shortage of birthmothers which is causing the long wait.
15 minutes of your day
We are hoping that 2010 will be the year that we become parents. Three years is a long time, and we are worn out with waiting. But more importantly, 2010 is the last year that adoptive families will be eligible for the Adoption Tax Credit. This is a tax credit given to adoptive families after they have completed an adoption. It currently covers costs up to $12,000. Considering that our adoption bill will add up to somewhere near $25,000 when it’s all said and done, the tax credit is basically our financial lifeline. Unfortunately, if we don’t complete an adoption by December 31st, 2010, we may not be able to take advantage of the credit. Without the credit, completing our adoption will be extremely difficult, and perhaps impossible.
Fortunately, there are two bills in the House and Senate – H.R. 213 and S2816 – that will reinstate the credit if passed. If you would like to help not only us, but thousands of families and children throughout the country, we’re asking that you take just a few minutes to contact your Senators and Congressmen and let them know that you support these bills.
We’ve been informed that e-mail or telephone are the best way to let our reps know that you support the bill. Snail-mail tends to take a long time and often doesn’t even make it to the right people. Don’t worry, we’ve made it ridiculously easy. Please follow these steps:
- Copy the pre-written letter of support from this Web site:
- Go to the contact Web pages for your representatives:
- For each representative: paste in the pre-written letter, edit the letter to add your name (both in the first sentence, and the sign-off!), and click send
- Done! The entire process should take no more than 15 minutes and means the world to us.
Thank you for all your love and support throughout this process. We can’t wait to send you the e-mail letting you know we’ve completed our journey!
Kate and Joel
For the law nerds, here is more info on the bills:
Ridiculous! It takes five minutes, tops, and that’s if you bothered to add a little note about how you have dear friends who will be great parents and need the rep’s help to make this happen.
Hey there! I found this site by looking up adoption blogs, as my husband and I are applying to adopt as well. I hope things pan out this year for you both as well. Have you ever thought of going through the state for adoption.It’s usually free, besides the fingerprints and background checks. Also usually the state works with surrounding states and through agencies. Yet if you are set on a birth mother, I wish I could remember the name of the site, but there are lists of birth mothers through the u.s. for you to choose from too. I hope I helped! I really do hope you both get what you wish for this year!
I ran across your blog on adoption blogs, and just read through it. Man, what a crazy few years you two have had with this process. Thank you for continuing to work at it though and thank you for posting. My husband and I would like to adopt eventually, and its really helpful/appreciated to have people like you willing to share your experience. Best of luck!